Co-Author: Nancy Goodell
TLC FOR FRAZZLED KIDS is a practical step-by-step guide for working with children who are experiencing the ongoing challenges of living in this complex world. Because today’s children contend with high levels of emotional vulnerability, the result may be a wide range of acting-out behaviors. TLC FOR FRAZZLED KIDS is a resource for parents, teachers, therapists, and child-care workers. The methods support the overall development of resilient children as they learn strategies for safety and success.
What Readers Are Saying:
Don’t let the modest size of TLC for Frazzled Kids: Helping Grown Ups Help Kids by Nancy Goodell and Ann Garrett fool you. Its 104 pages are packed with so much wisdom that, while reading it, I kept asking myself “Where was this book when I needed it?”
This mighty little book could also be titled TLC for Frazzled Parents of Frazzled Kids. Every page within every short chapter throws a lifeline to parents and caretakers at their wit’s end as to how best help their children during difficult times.
Goodell and Garrett have spent their lives working with children who exhibit out-of-control behaviors. During her 40 years as a teacher serving at-risk children during which Goodell developed a model that helps grownups help kids. Garrett, the author of six published children’s books, spent years working with severely disturbed children and began using Goodell’s model while working with her at a therapeutic school.
“We cannot protect our children from the challenges they face, but we can support them to learn strategies that will enable them to be safe and successful, even when they are stressed,” writes Goodell.
Over the years, her definition of frazzled kids has broadened to include all children who at one time or another lose control. Delightfully illustrated by renowned cartoonist Gaspar Vaccaro, TLC for Frazzled Kids provides adults with a step-by-step process to use with “frazzled” children. The techniques are simple. For example: set clear limits to ensure safety and success; issue comprehensible guidance and offer affirming feedback; apply logical and natural consequences to reinforce personal responsibility; encourage honesty in a non-punitive environment; maintain a calm, balanced, non-threatening demeanor; establish routines; have realistic expectations; encourage children to recognize their bodily responses to stress and to develop calming strategies.
Not all of us are prepared to be the parent our children need us to be. This book can help rectify that situation. Parents and children can build the bridge together.
Gifts in life often come wrapped in unexpected packages. This book is a quick read with outcomes lasting a lifetime- self-control, success, safety, and social skills. It is intended to be a gift for mothers…mothers who are busy raising kids and often facing behavior challenges or kids in crisis.
This bite-size program will provide you with new tools to deal with your child especially when things are “running amuck” You will feel less frazzled. And when moms are less frazzled, their kids are too.
What Readers Are Saying:
In today’s hectic world, neither parents nor teachers have much time to read technical books about dealing with children and teen’s acting-out behavior. TLC for Frazzled Kids gives practical strategies that really work. The author’s challenging journey in the 1970s, teaching in an inner-city school, in which she intuitively worked out ways to deal successfully with out-of-bounds middle schoolers, have been verified only recently by brain research on attachment theory that was unavailable then. The author bravely details how inept she felt as a young teacher who could not control her class. Anyone who has children or who works with children will recognize the difficult feelings of alternating helplessness or anger. This book tells just how to calm the child and yourself, and to form a relationship that is helpful to both the child and the caretaker be it a teacher, coach, or parent. I am a parent, former teacher, special ed counselor and current psychotherapist who works with children and families. I highly recommend this readable book.